3 months ago
4
When a character suffers emotional pain, the brain’s response is to stop the discomfort, and often this results in a coping mechanism being deployed. Whether it’s an automatic response or a learned go-to strategy, a mechanism helps them cope with the stress of the moment or escape the hurt of it.
But if the character develops an unhealthy reliance on that mechanism, problems will arise. Long-term, certain coping behaviors will impair their connections with others, their ability to achieve goals and dreams, and their ability to handle life’s pressures.
At some point, they must have an Aha! moment where they realize their coping method is holding them back and seek other ways to deal with stress. Namely, they’ll have to adopt healthier mechanisms that enable them to manage difficulties and ultimately have a happier future.
To help you write your character’s growth (or regression) journey, we’ve created The Coping Mechanism Thesaurus, which contains a range of coping mechanisms. The one we’re highlighting today can help your character better manage painful emotions and stress. Use this partial entry to show readers the character is choosing more productive strategies that will build resilience.
Practicing Forgiveness
Definition
Letting go of resentment and bitterness toward oneself or others.
What It May Look Like
Offering an olive branch to someone they’ve held at bay
Recognizing self-condemning thought patterns and replacing them with healthier ones
Choosing to let go of an offense, even if the other person doesn’t (or can’t) apologize
Realizing the offense wasn’t intentional and giving the other party grace
Praying or meditating to let go of resentment and bitterness
Internal Struggles
I’m not letting that define me anymore.
I did the best I could with what I knew then. I know better now.
I can forgive without pretending it didn’t happen.
Challenges That Will Test the Character
Seeing the offender living a better life than them
The offender refusing to acknowledge the harm they caused
Discovering the offender has died before reconciliation can happen
Basic Human Needs It Could Fill
Self-Actualization: Releasing resentment allows a character who believes forgiveness is right to live according to their values rather than being controlled by past wounds.
Love and Connection: Forgiveness can restore broken relationships or free a character to form new, healthier bonds unburdened by bitterness.
For help brainstorming your character’s responses to stress, see our master list of healthy and unhealthy coping mechanisms.
Need More Descriptive Help?
While this thesaurus is still being developed and expanded, the rest of our descriptive collection (18 unique thesauri and growing) is accessible through the One Stop for Writers THESAURUS database.
If you like, swing by and check out the video walkthrough for this site, then give our Free Trial a spin.
The post Coping Mechanism Thesaurus Entry: Practicing Forgiveness appeared first on WRITERS HELPING WRITERS®.
